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— Multiple contributors will share inspiring messages, experiences in approaching different topics with their children and the joy they have found since leaving.
- “Prior to our departure from the Mormon church, we were very dependent on the curriculum that the church had planned for our children. Primary, baptism, young men/women, seminary, priesthood, mission, temple marriage, have children, repeat. The goal was to raise strong children in the gospel so that they too could follow ‘Gods plan’ and continue ‘His work and His glory.’ So, when we went through our faith transition and made the decision to leave the church, we had many questions as to how and through what curriculum would we raise our children.
First, we discussed what our mission and goals were in raising these beautiful children. We established that we wanted to raise children to live a fulfilling life, make choices to live up their greatest potential of happiness and to build relationships of love. We want their contributions to society to be positive, honest and true. We also realized that WE have an innate desire to love these kids with all our heart. Loving them gives us a tremendous amount of satisfaction. We are raising our future best friends, after all. We realized that we didn’t need the church at all to fulfill our goals. In fact, we felt that we had more freedom to tailor our parenting to best achieve our goals without the church.
While we established these goals for our parenting, we knew that there is flexibility in the outcome. We must not set expectations that would limit our children’s potential. We want to teach them the skills to think critically, make informed decisions, and develop hobbies that they enjoy. As long as we teach and give them the freedom to exercise these things, the rest is up to our kids. With all this in mind, and without the external pressures of the past, it’s amazing to see how much our excitement for parenting has grown.”