The worst are men who get offended when I don't let my guard down fast enough. Nevermind that if I let it down too fast and I am raped, or have my nudes published, or the content of my conversations published, or my privacy invaded by said guy I let my guard down too fast for that I am instantly at fault. I asked for it. I deserved it. I was stupid. I was naive. It's MY fault that I trusted a creep too quickly. But go ahead, "good guy", get pissed at me for not dropping my walls fast enough for you, especially while you're refusing to provide any reassurances that you're safe because "I shouldn't need that" and if I do, those are my "trust issues" and not your problem. Cause you're a "good guy." You said so.
Regrann from @ravishly
- On Gray Areas And Why Men Should Listen More:
Men, ask the women in your lives to honestly tell you how they feel meeting men for the first time.
Ask them how they would feel in a room if they were the only woman. I did last night, I asked every woman I talked to on a non-professional level, and EVERY SINGLE one of them said when meeting male friends for the first time, they had to slowly learn to let their guard down. And even now, they are always on the lookout for any sign that a man in their life is not, “one of the good guys.” (LINK IN BIO)
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