My mom sent me this quote tonight with along with “Boom” as the preface of the text. She nailed it. 👍🏻 I’m not sure why so many people abandon you during your struggles. It could be because they feel inadequate to help you, they don’t know what to say or do, they spend more time making excuses than creating time for you, or they only care to the extent that it doesn’t require action. 👍🏻 I have faith and I’m for thoughts and prayers, but I’m sorry - your good thoughts for me have never dried my tears, given me hugs, heard me out, lended me a hand...they haven’t done shit. I usually don’t cuss on here, but this fires me up. A LOT. 👍🏻 Get off your ass and help your friends and family. You CAN create an hour for someone. I say create because we are all BUSY. Every single one of us are busy. But you can bet that a person I consider a friend or a family member of mine - time is made for you in your time of need. It just is. Yet so few people actually do this in this day. So few. 👍🏻 My people (and my moms people) are the the people who show up for me now and are the same people who wouldn’t have anything to regret if I died tomorrow. This may seem dramatic but it’s true and we are all guilty of making excuses to save us time instead of being present for someone. 👍🏻 Life happens to everyone. Unless you live out of town there shouldn’t be so many reasons you can show up for someone within a month time frame. 30 days is 720 hours. You can make room for ONE of those hours for someone who needs you. And those people who do not make time for you, who don’t send a text, or make a call, or send flowers, or cancel constantly - those people are not your people. And that’s okay. 👍🏻 Life is about weeding out those who only take from you. I’m convinced it takes a lifetime to cultivate relationships like a tree to soil. It takes years for the rings in the tree to form and it is made possible by the environment in which it resides. The same goes for humanity. We can still love people and realize they aren’t the soil we need to grow our tree.
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